Thank you for your insight into your trans experience. It is eye-opening and revealing. I am very grateful to you for making the effort to put your thoughts and experiences into words for me and others to read and learn from. You did a fantastic job. It’s very helpful. am wondering if you can explain how your relationship with, and perspective of, your parents was throughout your experience. And, how it was after your experience. Thank you.
I am saddened every time I read an account of someone being cheered on to hormones and surgeries when the nature and sources of their dysphoria have not been explored. When I worked therapeutically with men who had "gender issues," the overwhelming majority who focused over a period of time on who they were and what they wanted decided they were "not trans." During the Nineties and up to 2010 or so nobody came to see me saying "I know what my gender identity is." The most anyone "knew" was that they liked to wear women's clothes and had always had other feminine interests. The idea in a man's head that he is a woman is a complex process that evolves over time and can be influenced by other people, just as a person's idea of his "life purpose" can change when someone he respects says, "You would be really good at" a specific occupation.
Your insight is powerful. Thank you. I believe we’ve, unfortunately, done away with teaching and modeling self discipline.
“Desire must be tempered by wisdom”applies to so many areas of our lives. It brings to mind a mindful practice to adopt: that when we “want” something we first mindfully consider, “yeah, but is it wise…” which is much more proactive and thoughtful than the more typical admonishing ourselves to “have some discipline.”
Thank you for your insight into your trans experience. It is eye-opening and revealing. I am very grateful to you for making the effort to put your thoughts and experiences into words for me and others to read and learn from. You did a fantastic job. It’s very helpful. am wondering if you can explain how your relationship with, and perspective of, your parents was throughout your experience. And, how it was after your experience. Thank you.
I am saddened every time I read an account of someone being cheered on to hormones and surgeries when the nature and sources of their dysphoria have not been explored. When I worked therapeutically with men who had "gender issues," the overwhelming majority who focused over a period of time on who they were and what they wanted decided they were "not trans." During the Nineties and up to 2010 or so nobody came to see me saying "I know what my gender identity is." The most anyone "knew" was that they liked to wear women's clothes and had always had other feminine interests. The idea in a man's head that he is a woman is a complex process that evolves over time and can be influenced by other people, just as a person's idea of his "life purpose" can change when someone he respects says, "You would be really good at" a specific occupation.
Thank you for sharing. It's an important message and your voice is appreciated.
Your insight is powerful. Thank you. I believe we’ve, unfortunately, done away with teaching and modeling self discipline.
“Desire must be tempered by wisdom”applies to so many areas of our lives. It brings to mind a mindful practice to adopt: that when we “want” something we first mindfully consider, “yeah, but is it wise…” which is much more proactive and thoughtful than the more typical admonishing ourselves to “have some discipline.”